• Entering Sophomore Year

    August 8th, 2023. The first day of sophomore year. Wow, time has flown by way too quickly. I feels like yesterday I was preparing to go into middle school. I think I’m ready, I have everything I need supply wise, I made plans with friends of where to sit at, I know my schedule, I like my classes. But personally, I don’t want to go back. I don’t want to face all the things that I know I’ll be facing because it’s another school year, with more responsibilities to build up a resume to get into college. Sometimes I feel like very step in life is just so that I can obtain my goal of getting into an Ivy League. My elementary school prepared me for entering my middle school at fourth grade (it lasted from fourth to eighth). I went there in fourth grade, participated in Science Olympiad, asked for help from middle school teachers so they’d know me when I moved up grades. I got to middle school, I put myself in tons of clubs and worked to get the highest academic standing possible so that I’d get into a special program for high school. I got into the program, and I work hard to get good grades, keep up the extracurriculars, and do research all so that I can get where I want to go. This year is another step towards getting there. 

    I only have two classes in-person this year and that means I get more free time. But being me, I love to pile things into my free time so that I end up with no free time. I’ve already blocked up all my free time over the summer by planning out exactly what I will be doing. I realize now as I’m going into sophomore year that I’m okay with that. I used to feel that I was having enough time for just me, time to relax, time to do whatever I wanted to do. But as I grow older and I enter new stages, chapters, grades of my life, I understand that it works for me. I get incredibly bored over the summer because I don’t have as much to do, and feel like I waste away. I recently took the 16 Personalities Quiz and it told me I was ENTP-A, the Debater. I read the description, I was like, “Wow that is so accurate.” ENTPs have difficulty sticking to one thing because they get all these different ideas and jump on them, once they’ve done enough or have mastered it, they become bored and want the next challenge. That is why I am okay with putting more and more things into my schedule. Because I comprehend that it is just a part of my personality and I shouldn’t have to feel like me doing more and more is going to take away from me, because it won’t. I’m still me. I’m still Isabel. 

    This summer has been a complete whirlwind of adventures, big and little. From competing at a science competition to spending time in Japan to going on a scholarship program to Westlake University in Hangzhou, China. 

    This photo was taken at the end of Freshman Year. I have a tradition where I take photos of myself at the end of the school year to watch at how I’ve evolved and changed over the years. I’ve done this since fourth grade! I like to think the Isabel that left ninth grade was strong, confident, and ready to conquer the world. The end of the year was actually a bit of a struggle as I had someone who I had considered a close friend go around the school spreading rumors and trashing my name all so she could win a competition. I wasn’t even at school for the days following in exams because I was competing in Dallas for a science competition. I feel that despite the drama and rumors that see to follow, I am accomplished and met the goals that I had set for myself at the beginning of the year, prior to entering high school.

    This photo was taken two days ago. New haircut and ready for the year to begin. I was worried about acne going into the school year because I’ve had acne for the longest and it’s always been something that I so badly wanted to disappear. The acne actually got worse when I was in China because I loaded up on milk and sugar, two of my acne triggers. I was able to find peace with myself knowing that acne doesn’t make me ugly or gross. I had to learn that an external factor like acne doesn’t make anyone any less beautiful. In fact, people tend to be more beautiful on the inside than the outside. So, as the school day of tomorrow continues to inch closer and closer, I think I’m ready to rock it and practice my skateboarding from school to the lab I now work in ;-). 

  • Social Media Is Killing Our Perception of Self

    I’m going to make guess. I guess that more than 75% of the readers on this blog have Instagram or some form of social media (yes, TikTok is included in this). Social media destroys our perception of our bodies every single time we use it. I am guilty of having Instagram, I’ll admit it. But Instagram and other social media platforms can be such a dark place that we should try to set boundaries.

    According to Marriam & Webster, body image is defined as “a subjective picture of one’s own physical appearance established both by self-observation and by noting the reactions of others.” Girls scrolling on Instagram or TikTok see female models that are thin and think they should look like that. However, in reality, these models weigh twenty-three percent less than the average woman and are often using PhotoShop to modify their bodies. Girls then create this image of what they want their body to look like and start to feel insecure about the way they look.

    These insecurities often lead to Body Dysmorphia Disorder, or BDD). BDD is a mental illness that causes girls to obsess over a flaw they have or imagined to have about themselves. People with body dysmorphia will spend countless hours trying to fix their “flaw.” Which causes girls who struggle with body dysmorphia to become twenty percent more likely to experience depression before reaching adulthood.  

    A common occurrence with BDD is avoiding school or after-school activities due to insecurity about looks. Over 70% of fifteen, sixteen, and seventeen year old girls will do this. Many girls will refuse to participate in sports with skin-tight uniforms, such as volleyball and cheerleading uniforms, due to the belief that they don’t look “good enough” in it. 

    Girls who have BDD will often engage in bad habits or activities that they later tend to regret. One study concluded that teenage girls who are insecure about their appearance are four times more likely to participate in sexual activities with boys that they later regret. Other studies found that 75% of girls with low-self esteem about their looks are more likely to engage in cutting, bullying, smoking, drinking, high risk sexual behaviors, and eating disorders. 

    When girls are insecure about their looks, they will often resort to dieting or fasting in order to control what their body looks like. It is believed that as many as twenty million American women will experience an eating disorder sometime in their lifetime. This is about 12% of the American female population in America as of 2022. 

    There are a total of twelve eating disorders, two of the most common are Anorexia Nervosa (commonly known as Anorexia) and Bulimia Nervosa (commonly known as Bulimia) 

    Girls with Anorexia will restrict the amount of food they eat and exercise regularly to make themselves skinnier. On the other hand, girls with Bulimia will binge-eat and then throw up the food they ate, or take laxatives, to decrease their weight.

    Not only is social media and the internet one of the root causes of eating disorders, but it also encourages women and girls to continue down that self destructive path. 

    The pro-anorexia and pro-bulimia movements, movements that encourage anorexia and bulimia, have been located on websites and social media throughout the internet. 

    These websites and social media posts promote pictures of thin celebrities and other anorexic/bulimic women as a source of inspiration. They also provide tips for “becoming thin, hiding eating disorders, suppressing hunger, and keeping stomach acid from harming teeth” (Ma, par. 8). 

    These websites and social media accounts will brainwash girls and women who express concerns about their eating disorders by reinforcing the need to be anorexic and bulimic. These groups support and validate the idea of losing weight through the use of eating disorders.

    Unfortunately, eating disorders are potentially life threatening and can create many harmful effects for someone’s body. Many girls with eating disorders are hospitalized in order to reach a healthier weight. 

    Some negative effects of eating disorders include cardiovascular and gastrointestinal system failure. 

        • Muscles are the first organs to break down due to your body having to consume its own tissue for fuel. The human heart is a muscle and the risk for heart failure rises the longer someone has an eating disorder.
        • People with eating disorders are more susceptible to bacterial infections as well as blocked intestines due to large masses of undigested foods.
        • Binge eating can also cause the stomach to rupture while continuous vomiting can cause the esophagus to rupture, both of which are life threatening emergencies. 

    Not only has body standards influenced eating disorders, but it has also persuaded more women to get plastic surgery in attempts to create the desired figure, caused by unhealthy obsessions from comparing themselves on social media platforms, and has been known to have negative effects on mental health. 

    There has been a large increase in the number of plastic surgeries since the beginning of the Coronavirus pandemic. This is due to an increased social media usage which has caused girls and women to spend longer times scrolling through social media platforms. As a result, they have been exposed to more false body standards and have subconsciously started trying to reciprocate these standards in themselves. One way to achieve this goal is through plastic surgery. In 2019, there was a thirty-three percent increase in breast augmentation, the most common plastic surgery in the world. A well-known plastic surgeon in Charlotte, North Carolina has reported that his business “boomed” after the pandemic with many people wanting plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. He reported that many people wanted to get procedures done because they had started to recognize small flaws in their bodies and faces. He attributed this to increased time on the screen and increased social media usage. 

    A recent study conducted by the journal Body Image also concluded that the more time women spend on social media, the more likely they are to have an obsession with comparing themselves to other women on social media or in their life.Most commonly, girls and women will compare their bodies to those of their peers. In doing so, this creates jealousy and hatred. Additionally, this obsession creates psychological and emotional consequences. 

    Another study at the healthcare institute, Florida House Experience, showed that eighty-seven percent of women compare their bodies to others. Also, fifty percent of these women view their body as ‘unfavorable’ in comparison to that of celebrities, peers, or other women on social media. This unhealthy obsession causes girls and women to try to alter their bodies to look more similar to those of famous celebrities or their peers in hopes of gaining more positive attention. 

    The more time spent on social media, the more detrimental it is for mental health. Social media has also been known to trigger or worsen some genetic and psychological predispositions. Research has shown correlations between social media usage and psychological disorders. Although it has not been officially proven, it is known that it can worsen pre-existing mental health issues. Many common mental health issues commonly attributed with increased social media usage include: depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts. 

    Overall, social media has many negative effects on women’s mental health and physical well-being. The body positivity movement is an effective way to decrease insecurities, mental health illnesses, eating disorders, amongst others. The body positivity movement is a movement that reinforces that societal ideals about body standards are worthless. The body positivity movement promotes women of all shapes and sizes. The three main goals of the body positivity movement include: the promotion of all bodies, helping others build confidence and love their bodies, and address and eradicateunrealistic body standards. One proven way to fight body standards and insecurities is to get rid of social media. Many girls who took a break from social media have reported feeling less insecure, loving their bodies, feeling happier, etc.

    So, I dare you, regardless of your gender, to take a break from social media and see how much happier you are. 

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    American Society of Plastic Surgeons. “New Statistics Reveal the Shape of Plastic Surgery.” American Society of Plastic Surgeons, American Society of Plastic Surgeons, 1 Mar. 2018, Web. 4 Dec. 2021. https://www.plasticsurgery.org/news/press-releases/new-statistics-reveal-the-shape-of-plastic-surgery.

    “Beauty Standards: See How Body Types Change through History.” Science of People, Elite CafeMedia, 25 Oct. 2021, Web. 4 Dec. 2021. https://www.scienceofpeople.com/beauty-standards/.

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  • The Life of A Nobody: Introduction

    The Life of A Nobody. We’re all nobodies, aren’t we? We’re born and don’t really truly become a somebody until we make a name for ourselves. I mean, I’m a 14 year old girl living in the United States who might be seen as a somebody to her parents, her readers, and her friends, but the list ends there. I may think the world about myself but I’m never really somebody until I shape my future. Until I do something with my life. Until I truly embody the definition of my full name. 

    You’re probably wondering where in the world this came from. Why, out of the blue, I would decide to write a post like this. Well, the truth is, I don’t know. I’ve struggled in my life, just like everyone else. But I don’t want my struggles to define me, I want to shape my future into what I truly want. So, I figured I’d bring you along for the journey 🙂 ! Plus, you can thank my 9th grade marine science teacher for the title. One day in class he made a comment about one day, we’ll all hopefully become somebody important and write an autobiography. 

    I go through phases in life. I want to do one thing and then another and then another. It’s like a rotating carousel of the various jobs and activities I want to do. Second grade was martial arts, third grade was girl scouts, fourth grade was becoming a famous YouTuber, fifth grade was becoming a neurosurgeon, sixth grade was becoming an Instagram influencer, seventh grade was becoming a professional tennis player, eighth grade was a mix of all of the above, and ninth grade was this blog. The current phase is writing this blog, Travel In Color, and traveling the world. I can’t really decide what I want to do in life because my mind flips every other day. I even doubted that I would continue writing Isabel In Color because of how many times I quit. I put 110% of my effort into something in the beginning, and once I get bored, I no longer do it. My mom is the only reason I’m still doing some activities. She forces me to continue my violin lessons, learn Hindi, and play tennis. To be honest, the only reason I haven’t quit trying in school is because I need to get a scholarship to go to college. I often wonder if I’m just going to rotate around everything for the rest of my life, never finding something that I’m passionate about forever. Everyone around me has found something they could do for the rest of their lives, except me. Even in school, all of my friends have some idea of what degree they want to pursue. We use this platform, Xello, to discuss careers and find things that interest us. Well, even after all of the personality and job tests I’ve taken on this platform, none of the careers interest me. The current plan is to become a doctor, even though I don’t want to do that for a job. I want to get a career so I have something to fall back on if life doesn’t go to plan. Yes, I’m realizing that this whole blurb probably made no sense. But all of it makes me feel like I have no purpose in life. Like, I don’t have anything that will make me stand out. When we hear Serena Williams, we think tennis. When we hear Joan of Arc, we think amazing female soldier. When you hear my name, your first thought is probably who is that. And the second is most likely, that is the most generic name I have ever heard.

    If you asked me to describe myself, I’d give you my name. I might be a nobody at this moment, but I’m still Isabel, and nothing will ever take that away. I might also not know what I want to do in life, but I know I want to be remembered. And for that reason, we should describe ourselves as our names. Our names match us, they are the basis of us. Our name is how we’re known. I could list adjectives of people who changed the world, but you’d never guess which person I was talking about. Through their name, is how we remember them. 

    And that is how I wish to be remembered. I want to be remembered by my name and my accomplishments. My life goal is to one day become a somebody. 

    Check out the other posts

  • Girls Are Vicious

    Growing up my mom always told me that girls became vicious in middle school. I made the mistake of not believing her and now here I am, letting you know that is not a lie. Girls do become vicious in middle school and they become like that without a single ounce of remorse.

  • Surviving Middle School 101

    Welcome to the first post in a series of 10! Welcome to Surviving Middle School! Throughout the next ten posts, I will be writing about my tips and recommendations for how to survive middle school. All of these posts are based off of my experiences only, many of you might not experience this at all or may face a worse extreme. Please be cautious when reading as you may not experience the same situations. I do hope, however, that by reading you can have a good idea of how to survive your middle school years. I wish you luck and hope you enjoy the series!

    1. Basic Rules

    2. FInd Someone

    Friends are so unbelievably important in middle school. Typically we start to go through puberty by the time we hit seventh grade and it can be helpful to have a friend, or a few. I know it can be easier to talk to people your age rather than parents or teachers. Sometimes, people in similar ages can be more relatable and it feels more comfortable/natural to broach more uncomfortable topics. 

    3. Work Hard

    I know that this is middle school and it doesn’t truly count for anything except the ability to attend a signature program in high school, however, it really pays to work hard in the beginning. I find it so much easier in high school because I worked hard in middle school to find good study habits and what worked best for me. Check out some of the blog posts below for inspiration on tips/recommendations for doing well in school. 

    4. It is What It Is

    This is something I wish I would have understood earlier on during my middle school career. If people don’t like you or hang out with you, they aren’t going to magically become your friends one day. I was always on the hunt to get more people to like me and to find some friends, but it all just hurt me. I was so focused on getting people to like me that I have done things I’m not proud of for attention and friends. Please do NOT repeat my mistakes and come to terms with the fact that they won’t be your friends if they don’t want to. 

    5. Realize The Dysfunction

    6. Fake It Until You Make It

    Check Out The Series

    Part 1: Surviving Middle School 101

    Part 2: Girls Are Vicious

    Part 3: Finding Friends

    Part 4: The Social Cliques

    Part 5: Good Grades Please

    Part 6: How To Be Okay

    Part 7: Talking To Teachers

    Part 8: Being Good At Being Alone

    Part 9: Social Isolation Is A Real Thing

    Part 10: Let’s Find You

  • Let’s Talk About Stress

    Girl, you don’t even have to thank me. I know you were just craving this type of post. But you can say it if you want, I mean, I’m a sucker for compliments. Just kidding! I would never go fishing for compliments like that… Anyway, let’s have a real girl talk. Face to computer, computer to face. I know that we have all been stressed at least once in our lives, unless you are that one person who just didn’t. It could have been about grades, a guy, or maybe a situation at home. Despite the reason we became stressed, we still felt it. Maybe in the form of a stomach ache, a headache, intense sweating (shout out yikes to those who forgot their deodorant that day!), or a lack of appetite. There are so ,many symptoms to stress that we won’t all experience the same ones. Some of my friends will get headaches while I will fidget with my fingers or rip my fingernails off. So today we’re going to dive right into the depths of stress and talk with a mental health therapist to get all of your questions answered! 

    Basic Q&A About Stress

    Stress is our body’s adaptive response when faced with anything that is perceived as a threat or challenge. 

    The stress response, specifically our amygdala, powers up our body with oxygen, hormones, and adrenaline that activates what is known as the fight or flight response. What this means is that when we are faced with a stressor, our muscles tighten, heart rate increases, our digestion stops, and all the blood flows towards our arms and legs. This is to increase our chances of survival. 

    The problem is that in some situations like a life and death situation, we want the amygdala to take over, however, when there isn’t a life-threat our amygdala cannot decipher the difference, thus causing us to become stressed out for invalid reasons. 

    Interview with Ms. Tar, LCSW

    “Stress is a short-term or long term response to a specific event or trigger; like for example being stressed about a fight with a friend. Anxiety lasts longer. It is persistent and excessive and doesn’t go away even in the absence of a stressor.”

    “Irritability, anger, fatigue, muscle pain, digestive troubles, difficulty sleeping.”

    “Short term sress when facing real danger is beneficial, but long-term stress impacts our mental and physical wellbeing. People can get heart disease, gastrointestinal problems, fatigue, anxiety, and many other issues as a result of long-term stress. It has also been proven that increased stress levels can lead to a shortened lifespan.” 

    And the answer to the question we’ve all been waiting for….. what do we do to combat stress?

    “The number one strategy that I always encourage my clients to do is to practice some deep breaths. And we may think, breaths? Come on, we do that all the time but the difference is that when we are in a state of stress, our breath is so shallow and so fast that it doesn’t really fuel your prefrontal cortex. And, so what we want to do is take these slow deep breaths that allow this oxygen to come to our prefrontal cortex that will then allow us to take this step back to rationalize things. They way to practice this breath is to take a breath through your nose, count to five as you hold that breath, and then you want to release the air softly through your mouth until all the air is gone. You want to make sure that you count because if you don’t, your brain will be likely to return its focus back to the stressor. You want to repeat the breaths multiple times until you are calm.”

    There are two other great options for combating stress, guided imagery and progressive muscle relaxation. 

    Guided imagery: “What this entails is you focusing on a pleasant thought or idea that is likely to bring a smile to your face. And then your going to use the five senses in order to describe it. For example, if you love ice cream then you could think everything about ice cream in unlimited ways. So, I’m going to describe what I see, I’m going to describe the smells of all the different ice creams, I’m going to describe the taste, what I hear in my environment, and what it feels  to be eating that ice cream. And so, this is a really good exercise to do before bedtime because it activates those slower brain waves that allows your body to relax and fall asleep easier. 

    Progressive muscle relaxation: “The third strategy that I encourage people to do is called progressive muscle relaxation. And for this one, what you do is apply tension to different parts of your body and then you relax the muscles. For example, you would squeeze your left hand really tight, hold it for about three seconds, and then relax it. You do this about three times and then you would switch to your right hand. Once again, you squeeze, hold for three, and then relax. You keep putting tension and relaxing different parts of your body until you do a whole body scan until you’ve applied tension and relaxation everywhere. What’s really cool about this is that if you actually relax your muscles and as you do this, tell yourself relax; your brain will actually associate the word relax with the actual physical relaxation fo your body and any time you say relax in the future, if you do this enough, your brain will automatically make your body relax.”

    And there you have it! The secret of all secrets, the way(s) to eradicate stress. Please, please, please let me know in the comments if you have any other tricks that help you to feel less stressed. I know the breathing has always helped me whenever I stress out but I’m so so so so so open to other methods. I hope this helps!

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